This is allegedly actual text from an American home economics text book,circa 1950.
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead,even the night before,to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know you've been thinking about him and concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so that you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup,put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives,gather up school books,toys,paper,etc. Run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order; and it will give you a lift too.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they're small),comb their hair,and if necessary,change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival,eliminate all noise of the washer,dryer,dishwasher,or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest that he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low,soft,soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him,but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or other pleasant entertainment. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure,his need to unwind and relax.
The goal! Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax in body and spirit.
It was a freezing day,a few years ago,when I stumbled upon a wallet in the street. There was no identification inside. Just three dollars,and a crumpled letter that looked as if it had been carried around for years.
The only thing legible on the torn envelope was the return address. I opened the letter and saw that it had been written in 1944 — almost 60 years ago. I read it carefully,hoping to find some clue to the identity of the wallet's owner.
It was a "Dear John" letter. The writer,in a delicate script,told the recipient,whose name was Michael,that her mother forbade her to see him again. Nevertheless,she would always love him. It was signed Hannah.
It was a beautiful letter. But there was no way,beyond the name Michael,to identify the owner. Perhaps if I called information the operator could find the phone number for the address shown on the envelope.
"Operator,this is an unusual request. I'm trying to find the owner of a wallet I found. Is there any way you could tell me the phone number for an address that was on a letter in the wallet?"
The operator gave me her supervisor,who said there was a phone listed at the address,but that she could not give me the number. However,she would call and explain the situation. Then,if the party wanted to talk,she would connect me. I waited a minute and she came back on the line. "I have a woman who will speak with you."
The woman gave me the name of the nursing home. I called and found out that Hannah's mother had died. The woman I spoke with gave me an address where she thought Hannah could be reached.
I phoned. The woman who answered explained that Hannah herself was now living in a nursing home. She gave me the number. I called and was told,"Yes,Hannah is with us."
I asked if I could stop by to see her. It was almost 10 p.m. The director said Hannah might be asleep. "But if you want to take a chance,maybe she's in the day room watching television."
The director and a guard greeted me at the door of the nursing home. We went up to the third floor and saw the nurse,who told us that Hannah was indeed watching TV.
We entered the day room. Hannah was a sweet,silver-haired old-timer with a warm smile and friendly eyes. I told her about finding the wallet and showed her the letter. The second she saw it,she took a deep breath. "Young man," she said,"this letter was the last contact I had with Michael." She looked away for a moment,then said pensively,"I loved him very much. But I was only sixteen and my mother felt I was too young. He was so handsome. You know,like Sean Connery,the actor."
When I was fifteen,I announced to my English class that I was going to write and illustrate my own books. Half the students sneered,the rest nearly fell out of their chairs laughing. “Don’t be silly,only geniuses can become writers,” the English teacher said smugly,“And you are getting a D this semester.” I was so humiliated I burst into tears.
That night I wrote a short sad poem about broken dreams and mailed it to the Capri’s Weekly newspaper. To my astonishment,they published it and sent me two dollars. I was a published and paid writer. I showed my teacher and fellow students. They laughed. “Just plain dumb luck,” the teacher said. I tasted success. I’d sold the first thing I’d ever written. That was more than any of them had done and if it was just dumb luck,that was fine with me.
During the next two years I sold dozens of poems,letters,jokes and recipes. By the time I graduated from high school,with a C minus average,I had scrapbooks filled with my published work. I never mentioned my writing to my teachers,friends or my family again. They were dream killers and if people must choose between their friends and their dreams,they must always choose their dreams.
I had four children at the time,and the oldest was only four. While the children napped,I typed on my ancient typewriter. I wrote what I felt. It took nine months,just like a baby. I chose a publisher at random and put the manuscript in an empty Pampers diapers package,the only box I could find. I’d never heard of manuscript boxes. The letter I enclosed read,“I wrote this book myself,I hope you like it. I also do the illustrations. Chapter six and twelve are my favourites. Thank you.” I tied a string around the diaper box and mailed it without a self addressed stamped envelope and without making a copy of the manuscript.
A month later I received a contract,an advance on royalties,and a request to start working on another book. Crying Wind,the title of my book,became a best seller,was translated into fifteen languages and Braille and sold worldwide. I appeared on TV talk shows during the day and changed diapers at night. I traveled from New York to California and Canada on promotional tours. My first book also became required reading in native American schools in Canada.
The worst year I ever had as a writer I earned two dollars. I was fifteen,remember? In my best year I earned 36,000 dollars. Most years I earned between five thousand and ten thousand. No,it isn’t enough to live on,but it’s still more than I’d make working part time and it’s five thousand to ten thousand more than I’d make if I didn’t write at all. People ask what college I attended,what degrees I had and what qualifications I have to be a writer. The answer is: “None.” I just write. I’m not a genius. I’m not gifted and I don’t write right. I’m lazy,undisciplined,and spend more time with my children and friends than I do writing. I didn’t own a thesaurus until four years ago and I use a small Webster’s dictionary that I’d bought at K-Mart for 89 cents. I use an electric typewriter that I paid a hundred and twenty nine dollars for six years ago. I’ve never used a word processor. I do all the cooking,cleaning and laundry for a family of six and fit my writing in a few minutes here and there. I write everything in longhand on yellow tablets while sitting on the sofa with my four kids eating pizza and watching TV. When the book is finished,I type it and mail it to the publisher. I’ve written eight books. Four have been published and three are still out with the publishers. One stinks. To all those who dream of writing,I’m shouting at you: “Yes,you can. Yes,you can. Don’t listen to them.” I don’t write right but I’ve beaten the odds. Writing is easy,it’s fun and anyone can do it. Of course,a little dumb luck doesn’t hurt。
The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and,using her hands to feel the location of the seats,walked down the aisle and found the seat he'd told her was empty. Then she settled in,placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg.
It had been a year since Susan,34,became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless,and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness,anger,frustration and self pity. And all she had to cling to was her husband,Mark.
Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all his heart. When she first lost her sight,he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again.
Finally,Susan felt ready to return to her job,but how would she get there? She used to take the bus,but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day,even though they worked at opposite ends of the city.
At first,this comforted Susan,and fulfilled Mark's need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon,however,Mark realized the arrangement wasn't working. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again,he admitted to himself. But she was still so fragile,so angry - how would she react?
Just as he predicted,Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. "I'm blind!",she responded bitterly. "How am I supposed to know where I am going? I feel like you're abandoning me."
Mark's heart broke to hear these words,but he knew what had to be done. He
promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her,for as long as it took,until she got the hang of it.
And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks,Mark,military uniform and all,accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses,specifically her hearing,to determine where she was and how to adapt her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her,and save her a seat.
Finally,Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived,and before she left,she threw her arms around Mark,her temporary bus riding companion,her husband,and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty,his patience,and his love. She said good-bye,and for the first time,they went their separate ways.
Monday,Tuesday,Wednesday,Thursday... Each day on her own went perfectly,and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself.
On Friday morning,Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying the fare to exit the bus,the driver said,"Boy,I sure do envy you."
There was once on a time a Fisherman who lived with his wife in a miserable hovel close by the sea,and every day he went out fishing. And once as he was sitting with his rod,looking at the clear water,his line suddenly went down,far down below,and when he drew it up again he brought out a large Flounder. Then the Flounder said to him,"Hark,you Fisherman,I pray you,let me live,I am no Flounder really,but an enchanted prince. What good will it do you to kill me? I should not be good to eat,put me in the water again,and let me go." "Come," said the Fisherman,"there is no need for so many words about it -- a fish that can talk I should certainly let go,anyhow," with that he put him back again into the clear water,and the Flounder went to the bottom,leaving a long streak of blood behind him. Then the Fisherman got up and went home to his wife in the hovel.
"Husband," said the woman,"have you caught nothing to-day?" "No," said the man,"I did catch a Flounder,who said he was an enchanted prince,so I let him go again." "Did you not wish for anything first?" said the woman. "No," said the man; "what should I wish for?" "Ah,"it is surely hard to have to live always in this dirty hovel; you might have wished for a small cottage for us. Go back and call him. Tell him we want to have a small cottage,he will certainly give us that." "Ah,"why should I go there again?" "Why,"you did catch him,and you let him go again; he is sure to do it. Go at once." The man still did not quite like to go,but did not like to oppose his wife,and went to the sea.
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